Monday, June 26, 2006

Hausfrau's Year in Review

About a year ago, I couldn't sleep during my daughters' nap time. I was tired of watching the Food Network and I had no friends to call and invite over as we had only lived in Ohio for a little over a month. I was so bored that I actually opened up the latest Parenting Magazine. I had been getting that magazine monthly since Baby Girl's birth, but I had never actually read one. And while I was getting pissed off that my Vanity Fair hadn't shown up in my mailbox yet, Parenting had found me right away.

I came upon an article about blogs. One that was mentioned was Corporate Mommy. In reading the article, I felt an instant connection with this stranger. She was a woman who was struggling with her work, raising a family, and trying to live a happy life. Sounded a lot like me, minus the working part. I closed the magazine and went to her site.

I read her site voraciously that night. And I read some comments. And I clicked on the commenter's sites and read their innermost thoughts. I was pretty hooked. I then clicked on a friend's website to see what performances she was working on in Pittsburgh. Erin had just lost her mom and I would click on her site, to sort of check up on her. It was there that I noticed that she also had a blog. After reading this particular post of Erin's, I thought I could perhaps start writing again. I always wanted to be a writer, but over the past few years I had gotten too involved in trying to be a career woman in a frustrating vocation. I guess I thought I had nothing worthwhile to say. The birth of my second daughter in February, our move to Cincinnati in April, and my new role as a SAHM (shudder) had really changed me. And so, I got a Blogger Account and started to write.

This blog has allowed me to do a couple of things. First off, it has been very therapeutic for me to be able to sort things out in my head through this site. There are many days where I feel that I am the absolute worst mother/wife/person/friend in the world. The writing really helps to temper those feelings. The comments from others (mostly strangers) have really helped me to see that I am not so different from anyone else. Secondly, I have been able to capture some of the funnier/not so funny moments of raising my girls. This is the closest thing to a scrapbook that my girls have right now, despite the fact that I spent $100 on scrapbook supplies at a Creative Memories party before I left New Jersey. At some point, I will print off the posts that pertain to them and put them in a book for them to read later.

While the writing has been great for me, I have really enjoyed reading about the daily lives of others. Again, it has been so reassuring to know that I am not the only person in the world who worries about parenting or losing my identity by not working outside of the home. I look forward to naptime everyday so that I can read some of my favorite sites. I have been made to feel better time and time again by Mary concerning all things parenting--she's a professional, so she should know! A few writers have really made me think long after I have read their posts, MIM, in particular. Some of the bloggers decide to take breaks for awhile. I still check up on them, in hopes that they will pick it up again--but I would understand if they didn't. I have come to really look forward to reading the latest escapades of some fantastic Daddy Bloggers. I appreciate reading about parenting from a male perspective, especially since Herr keeps his cards close to his chest. Cheeky's Hideway alone makes me almost makes me pee my pants because of his text links. You never know what you'll see, but they are always funny.

One of the toughest things about reading one's favorite blogs is that sometimes, really bad things happen to the people who write them. Some get a chance to start over after dealing with their personal tragedy. Others don't. And there's not a damn thing you can do about. Because you don't actually know them. Even though you sort of do. So you sit at your computer and cry. And pray that your spouse doesn't come in and think you need to be committed because you are crying over the life or death of a complete stranger.

In looking at some of my posts from the past twelve months, I've realized a few things. Number one, I really need to work on my writing skills. I expected that my skills would improve simply by blogging. Not so much. Also, I will probably no longer write under my pseudonym in the near future. I'm not sure why I bother since nine out of the ten readers I get on a daily basis already know who I am. The next year will most assuredly be full of changes, what with our impending move, my best friend moving to a foreign land, our new "fixer-upper" in Bethlehem, PA, and the probability of my returning to work outside of the home. Oh yeah, my 20 year high school reunion will be coming up next year. I am sure I will write about my race to get my ass into a size 4 again. Terrific.


Melissa said...

As long as you keep writing, I will be happy. I alays find it neat to see why people started writing. Great post.

The June Cleaver Diaries said...

I clicked on ever damn link you put in here, so I took, like, 10 minutes to read it! Has it really been a year already? I remember you calling to tell me you were starting a blog, and then to get me to start one, and I was all, "Helllllll NO. That's for 15 yr olds."

I'm formally eating my words now. Pass the salt.

Susan said...

I used to think that people who made friends on the Internet were a special kind of weird.

Now I know they are, and I'm proud to be one of them. And I'm proud to call you my friend. Congratulations on a whole year of Hausfrau. I can't wait to see what happens next.

MIM said...

Honey, I think your writing is simply fabUlous!

And I can't tell you how often I think of your "Now with 50% less screaming!" post. I swear it's at least once a week. Cracks me up every time!

Happy Anniversary!

MetroDad said...

I completely enjoyed reading your perspective on blogging, Misfit. Just as I've always enjoyed reading your perspective on parenting. It's amazing how we get caught up in each other's lives, isn't it? Whenever I hear that a blogging friend is going through tough times, I get so worried and can't stop thinking about them. Is that weird? Absolutely not! The one thing that I've really enjoyed about blogging is learning that friendships made online are just as valid as those made offline...and sometimes more.

Great post!

Suburban Turmoil said...

You do not need to work on your writing- you are a great writer! And I enjoy coming here for a visit. Happy Blogiversary!

wordgirl said...

I always enjoy your writing. Even though my kids are all boys (and older) it's interesting to see how the other half (raising girls) feels about things.

The 20 year reunion?? I PROMISE you'll have plenty of bloggin material after that shindig is over.

Kristen said...

Congrats on a year! A lot has happened in that time, hasn't it? It's amazing.

And I'm with you on getting caught up with my blog friends. Even my mom (who reads my blog now) will mention "my blog friends" when she reads the comments and sees some of the interactions. It is really an interesting dynamic. I love coming here and hearing things from your perspective. I can't wait to read about the next year with all the upcoming changes!

Andie D. said...

It's funny how we find our way into this strange little world of ours! I started through Blogging Baby, which I found on My Yahoo.

I think you should be proud of your writing. It's simply fantastic. You're funny, insightful, and an obviously good mom, wife, & friend.

I appreciate all that you've shared with me, too. It's helped me to know your story - another perspective.

I'm glad you've been doing this for a year, and can't wait to see what the next year brings!

L. said...

Happy blogiversary! Virtual chocolates all around!

I have to say, blogging has helped me immensely with our transition, and I look forward to reading about yours.

Kara said...

Happy Blogday to yooooouuuuu!! Your blog is so good I just assumed you'd been writing forever!! It's funny, but I can't imagine life without blogging now. Here's to a great year for you with new beginnings and lots of good consumer products not bearing the P&G name ;)

Nothing But Bonfires said... could you be TIRED of the Food Network?!